Social Psychology And Language on Ghafoor's Personal Blog

Blame - Conformity and Moral Excuses

hello@ghafoorsblog.com (AG Sayyed) — Sun, 01 Nov 2026 00:00:00 +0000

People rarely see themselves as the problem. We judge strangers by character and ourselves by context, excuse harm with clever labels, blame victims, obey authority, stay silent in groups and unite against a target. These shorts name those patterns.

Judging Others by Character and Yourself by Circumstances

Published 2026-07-17 · Watch the short

When someone cuts you off in traffic you think they are a reckless idiot, but when you cut someone off you think you are just late and stressed. The psychologist Lee Ross named this in 1977 the fundamental attribution error. The short says we explain other people’s behavior by their character and our own by our circumstances.

Groups - Words and Argument

hello@ghafoorsblog.com (AG Sayyed) — Sun, 01 Nov 2026 00:00:00 +0000

Groups can turn on one person, languages name what a culture values, and fair argument starts with understanding the other side. Three short ideas about how people act together and talk to each other.

How a Group Turns on One Person

Published 2026-10-27 · Watch the short

The Swedish psychologist Heinz Leymann studied workplace mobbing in the 1980s and found it tends to follow the same path. The narrator describes watching it happen to a mentor, the sharpest person he had worked with, who pointed out what was broken in front of leadership who did not want to hear it.

Manipulation - Attachment and Connection

hello@ghafoorsblog.com (AG Sayyed) — Sun, 01 Nov 2026 00:00:00 +0000

Some conversations leave you confused and guilty, some reactions fire before you can think, and some losses are hard to see at all. Naming these patterns, from DARVO to lost gathering places, makes them easier to understand.

DARVO, When the Victim Becomes the Offender

Published 2026-06-25 · Watch the short

You raise something that hurt you, and within seconds the other person denies it, attacks your character and claims to be the one who is hurt. The short says the psychologist Jennifer Freyd named this pattern DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

Social Roles - Borrowed Desire and Hierarchy

hello@ghafoorsblog.com (AG Sayyed) — Sun, 01 Nov 2026 00:00:00 +0000

Who we are in public, what we want and where we stand may all be shaped by other people. These shorts look at the self as a performance, desire as imitation, and rank as something that may follow possessions.

Front Stage, Backstage and the Performed Self

Published 2026-09-22 · Watch the short

You talk, sit and even hold your face differently when you are alone. The short says this is not being two-faced. It points to the sociologist Erving Goffman, who in 1959 described life as running on two stages.